Your mother-in-law wants you to travel for all holidays and you feel guilty saying no…


You don't think your child should be forced to hug the extended family members but you don't want to offend anyone...

You want to be celebrated for your birthday but hate to ask…

Your boss just has one more thing for you to do even though it’s outside your working hours…

This 90-minute self-paced class is for you if:

  • You are a serial people pleaser.
  • You were praised as a child for being easy to be around.
  • You are skilled at intuiting what other people need and wish your loved ones could read your mind better.
  • You are a beautiful enneagram 2 or 9 who is open to growing your ability to communicate more directly.
  • You were raised as a woman to consider other people's needs above your own.
  • You have kids or you don’t (not a parenting class). Married or single (not a marriage class). Gay, straight, or some beautiful expression all your own (yes to radical inclusivity). 


Price: $49

Recording will be available to all who register

Join the self-paced class!





Hi, I’m Mary Van Geffen, and I’m a mom just like you.


Let’s be clear that parenting my children did not come naturally to me. I had no idea what it looked like to stay tender in the midst of defiance and unexplainable explosive emotions. In the early years, there was a lot of yelling, disrespect and anger… from both of us.

Then, when my Spicy One™ turned 5, I started a life-changing spiritual journey to see the goodness of my child. I was determined to stay calm, kind and firm no matter what they were doing! This deep work into my own childhood and non-violent communication techniques allowed me to make space for the exceptional young adults my children have become.

My great joy is to now serve families struggling like mine once did and support them in their own healing journeys. I’ve coached hundreds of moms across the globe to transform the relationship they have with their larger-than-life kids.